“孩子对不起!
放下工作养不起你,拿起工作陪不了你”
看哭无数人
最近因为着急赶项目,我们团队经常加班到晚上11点。有天晚上去卫生间,发现我们团队一个同事在里面啜泣。
问她怎么了,她哽咽了老半天才说出原因。
她4岁的儿子最近病了,一直反复发烧,一发烧就喊“我要妈妈……”,而她又赶上工作忙,每天回到家十一二点,孩子都睡着了。
今晚婆婆打电话过来,责怨地说:“孩子念叨你一天了,你就不能早点下班回家陪陪他么?”结果这时候孩子抢过奶奶的电话一个劲地喊“妈妈,妈妈,你什么时候回来呀!”
同事说到这,克制不住,一时委屈心酸涌上心头,忍不住地泪如雨下。
孩子是自己亲生的,怎么会不心疼呢?!然而,赚钱养家的担子也不轻松啊。
人到中年,除了肩上的责任和重担,还要承受这样无法避免的无奈和心酸。
记得《大话西游》里,至尊宝说:不戴金箍,如何救你?戴了金箍,如何爱你?
同样地,人到中年,为人父母,何尝不是如此?
地铁里一位妈妈下班后太累了,一直瞌睡,小男孩心疼妈妈,跟妈妈说:“妈妈,你睡吧,到站了我叫你。”然后他一直保持这样的姿势,专心听着广播报站。
之前看过一个很戳心的纪录片《加一》。父母外出打工那年,加一还不到1岁,这些年她和弟弟一直跟着爷爷奶奶生活。
图片来自公益纪录片《加一》导演:蒋能杰
对加一来说,“爸妈”是电话那头关切的声音、相片中温暖的微笑、过年时匆匆来去的身影……
大年初二天刚蒙蒙亮,加一的爸妈就要返回广州。加一没有去送,她蒙着被子伤心地哭了起来。看到这一幕,爸妈没有来安慰她,只是红着眼大步迈出了家门,即便内心万般不舍。
爷爷安慰她:“爸妈在家陪你玩,哪有钱建房子、盖房子。”
陪伴是最长情的告白,如果不是迫于生活,这世间没有哪个父母想错过孩子的成长。
一说起姐弟俩,加一的妈妈就忍不住抹泪,觉得亏欠他们太多。一年只能见孩子一两次,住不了几天,就得赶紧返城挣生活。
她好想能在孩子哭的时候抱抱他们;在他们害怕难过时哄哄他们;然而,如果她不出来打工,孩子的学费怎么办呢?孩子以后的生活拿什么保障呢?
“我抱起砖头就没法抱你,我放下砖头就没法养你” ,普通中年人的生活没有两全。“孩子,你别哭,妈妈抱不到你啊”。
即便如此辛酸艰难,但每一位父母都在竭尽全力地想给孩子好的生活和未来。
闺蜜和他老公都属于很不错的工薪阶层,夫妻俩月收入三四万,在我们这种二三线城市还是不错的。
但闺蜜一直都自带午饭上班,连吃一顿二十几块钱的外卖都舍不得,而她老公每周六周日还要出去开网约车,能多赚点就多赚点。
曾经很不解地问她:“何苦这样拼?”
她说:“我们孩子现在2岁了,他在家打滚的时候,人家有钱孩子已经上学费几千块的早教班了。我亲眼看到一种差距:当有的孩子还在家里看电视的时候,别人家孩子在上舞蹈课、辅导班;当你带着孩子在楼下小广场玩耍的时候,人家带着孩子去欧洲十日游去了……”
学区房、辅导班、兴趣课……是每一个父母焦虑的根源,他们觉得自己这辈子就这样了,但孩子一定不能跟他们一样。于是,身边有太多父母拼死拼活,就是为了让孩子不输在起跑线上。
其实,对于中年人来说,孩子是他们最大的软肋,也是让他们勇往无前的铠甲。
冬日里,卖饼的小摊旁,一对夫妻正在和孩子聊视频,他们在寒风中瑟瑟发抖,但脸上全是笑意,不管在外挣钱多辛苦,只要看到孩子,听到孩子的笑声就值了。
其实很多父母心里都明白,能给孩子一个普通的岁月静好的生活就已经很不容易。但是他们还是很贪心,不想放弃,总是会拼尽全力地再为孩子做点什么。
这世上没有哪个父母不疼爱孩子,没有哪个父母不想陪伴孩子成长,但他们更想给孩子衣食无忧的生活,给孩子更美好的人生和未来。所以,他们就只能承受这种心酸和无奈:孩子啊对不起!爸爸妈妈放下工作养不起你,拿起工作陪不了你。
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